View Full Version : What do you do for Self-Care?

09-11-2019, 05:50 AM
Self-care seems like such a "millennial" concept, doesn't it? But it makes a lot of sense.

Right now, I am going through a stressful time. My mom has been in the hospital since last Friday, after a long summer of being sick and seeing different Drs. She has something wrong with her kidneys and her heart. They haven't been able to do a catheterization on her because her kidneys were not functioning properly so it has been a lot of chaos with the situation. My brother and father bicker a lot with her so I am the mediator in the family. The hospital is about an hour and a half from me so the trip back and forth is tiring on top of the emotional bits.
So that has been Huge Stress #1-10 *wink*
Yesterday in between fielding phone calls from the family, I had to take one of my dogs to the vet since she was throwing up blood. (And why do pets *always* have to throw up on the carpet, never on the tile? WHY??? ) I get home from the vet and start steam cleaning the carpets. I am almost finished when the poor doggo poops blood on the carpet. (Sorry TMI )
I take all three dogs outside and now Pup #3 also has diarrhea.. so I am back on the phone with the vet and boiling up a huge batch of chicken and rice for them and sorting out the meds that Pup #2 and #3 will need and when.
Huge Stresses #11-16, perhaps 17?

While not a stress-factor, all that keeps running through my brain is that "I am supposed to be down the shore!!!!" My mom and I go down the shore in Sept every year for a couple of days, sit on the beach, treat ourselves at a nice restaurant. Usually, we seem to get stuck with bad weather but the weather this week has been beautiful. Too bad that we had to cancel the trip because my mom is stuck in a hospital bed. pfft. THB, I think she is more upset about that then the heart issues she is having. For real. :grin:

So to the self-care concept... I don't take care of myself like I should. Like most women, I run myself ragged until I drop.

Do you do that too? (I am going to bet- "Yes.")

That is a bad habit and my daughter is always telling me to practice self-care. But what? I have been trying to meditate a bit before I fall asleep. It helps but it isn't enough. I am looking for ideas that are easy and inexpensive (because money is Huge Stresses #20-3,086,559 :rofl:)

What do you do for self-care and how do you squeeze it into a busy day?

09-13-2019, 10:05 AM
I like to go outside to clear my head.
take a walk or ride my bicycle. feel the fresh wind on your face.
great to get your thoughts in order, think over the things that bother you.
I don't listen to music so I have to listen to myself.

09-14-2019, 12:06 PM
When I had a house and garden I used to go out and putter around in my yard. Pulling weeds was very meditative for me, I got a little exercise, and the yard always looked a little better! Now that I live in an apartment, I try to get outside too, even if it's just for a walk around the block.

09-15-2019, 07:48 AM
Diane- being outside helps me clear my head too. Sadly, I put in headphones so I can avoid talking to myself. Totally *unhealthy*:(

Angie- That is what I do! Dirt Therapy! I talk to the worms and bugs. My kids laugh at me if they hear me, the other day they heard me talking to a garter snake. Being the yard is so darn helpful to me and I am getting sad that the weather will be too cold in another month or so.

09-20-2019, 10:43 AM
I listen to music. Usually something soothing like Josh Groban. I also love to go outside and listen to the waterfall on the pool.

09-21-2019, 06:59 AM
Waterfalls sound so relaxing and energizing. Great ideas!

12-17-2019, 01:38 PM
Being outside works great for me too, but I also make lists. When I feel my head get crowded and I feel like I have too much to do, I make lists. It makes things easier to see, and I don't have to keep everything in my head.

Besides that I try to eat and live healthier. Not that I always succeed, but I do try, because I do feel better when I do.

12-17-2019, 04:31 PM
I listen to music. Usually something soothing like Josh Groban.....

I love listening to music, too... and Josh Groban is a favorite. My other thing is re-reading some of my favorite books again. It is like visiting with an old friend. I tried to get out of the house at least once or twice a week.

12-18-2019, 06:43 AM
Jeanette, I am such a big fan of to-do lists. Even writing things down that I just "do" like laundry gives me a boost when I can cross it off.
The weather for the next 3-4 months won't be good to be outside. But I have a light therapy lamp that helps in that area.

Music-- I need to break out my Rent CD.... that always helps my regain perspective. No day but today!